The Untold Story: 5 Shocking Secrets Chappell Roan Revealed About Her Ex-Girlfriends And Dating Life

The meteoric rise of Chappell Roan has captivated the music world, turning Kayleigh Rose Amstutz into the ultimate pop princess and a queer icon for a generation. As of December 2025, the curiosity surrounding her private life, especially her past loves, has reached a fever pitch, but the artist remains fiercely protective of her identity and the identities of her partners.

While Chappell Roan has never publicly named a specific ex-girlfriend, she has offered tantalizing, fresh, and brutally honest details about her dating history through candid interviews and, most famously, through public call-outs and the deeply personal lyrics of her hit songs like "My Kink Is Karma" and "Red Wine Supernova." These revelations paint a vivid picture of the relationships that fueled The Rise and Fall of a Midwest Princess.

Chappell Roan: A Brief Biography and Profile

To understand the mystery of her exes, one must first appreciate the journey of the pop star who built a persona on maximalist glamour and radical transparency, all while maintaining a tight grip on her personal life.

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• Full Name: Kayleigh Rose Amstutz
• Stage Name: Chappell Roan (a tribute to her late grandfather, Dennis Chappell, and her grandmother, Joann Roan)
• Date of Birth: February 19, 1998
• Age (as of 2025): 27
• Hometown: Willard, Missouri, U.S.
• Musical Style: Pop, Synth-Pop, Glam Pop, Indie Pop
• Debut Album: The Rise and Fall of a Midwest Princess (2023)
• Key Songs: "Pink Pony Club," "Good Luck, Babe!," "Red Wine Supernova," "My Kink Is Karma"
• Public Persona: Known for her campy, drag-inspired aesthetic and honest exploration of queer identity and female desire.
• Sexuality: Openly queer, identifying as a woman who dates women.

The Fierce Privacy Surrounding Her Ex-Girlfriends

The number one reason the public doesn't know the name of a specific ex-girlfriend is Chappell Roan's commitment to privacy, a decision she has maintained even as her fame exploded.

In various interviews, the singer has made it clear that while she is an open book about her experiences, she draws a firm line at revealing the identities of the people she has dated. This is a deliberate choice to protect their personal lives from the intense scrutiny of her fanbase and the media.

She has confirmed having dated both men and women in the past, reflecting her queer identity.

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The focus, therefore, shifts from *who* they were to the *impact* they had on her art, which is where the real revelations lie.

Revelation 1: The Ex-Boyfriend Who Inspired "My Kink Is Karma" and the Lollapalooza Call-Out

While the search for an "ex-girlfriend" is common, the most public and dramatic call-out was actually directed at an ex-boyfriend. This moment became a viral sensation in 2024 and offers a clear look into the drama of her past relationships.

At Lollapalooza in August 2024, Chappell Roan dedicated her song "My Kink Is Karma" to a former partner.

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She told the massive crowd that the ex in question was "bragging" about dating her and was now engaged to someone else.

The most shocking part of the dedication was her direct message to the ex's fiancée: "Break up with him, girl! He's a liar! He's a snake!"

This event, while focused on a male ex, perfectly illustrates the kind of high-stakes, dramatic relationship history that fuels her music, which is often about bad breakups and getting the last word. The song itself is an anthem of schadenfreude, celebrating the downfall of a former lover who mistreated her.

Revelation 2: The Queer Ex-Lover Behind "Red Wine Supernova"

One of Chappell Roan's most iconic tracks, "Red Wine Supernova," is a clear ode to a relationship with a woman, and it is widely considered to be about a queer ex-girlfriend.

The lyrics are an unapologetic, dreamy, and euphoric celebration of intimacy and passion between two women.

Roan has confirmed the song is about self-discovery and love, and it was deliberately co-written to be "the gay girl's anthem" version of Oasis's "Champagne Supernova."

The song's campy, passionate energy suggests a relationship that was intense and transformative, even if it didn't last. It serves as the most direct lyrical evidence of a significant past relationship with a woman.

Revelation 3: The Mystery of Her Current, Very Serious Girlfriend

The most recent and significant update on Chappell Roan's dating life is not about an ex, but about her current, long-term girlfriend, whose identity is also completely private. This current relationship provides context for why her past is so locked down.

In a March 2024 interview on the Call Her Daddy podcast with Alex Cooper, Chappell Roan confirmed she was in a serious, committed relationship and was "very in love."

Crucially, she revealed that the relationship began *before* her career exploded with the success of "Good Luck, Babe!" and the viral fame of her tour.

This timeline is essential: because the relationship started before her fame, her partner is not a celebrity and has not been exposed to the pressures of her new life. This is likely a key reason why Chappell Roan is so protective, wanting to shield her partner from the chaos and scrutiny.

She has humorously stated that dating now would be a "nightmare" and that she is "scared" and doesn't "trust anyone" new, making her pre-fame relationship a safe harbor.

Chappell Roan's Other Breakup Anthems and Entities

Beyond the major hits, Chappell Roan’s discography is a rich source of information about her exes, revealing the various stages and emotions of her past relationships. These songs act as lyrical entities that stand in for the unnamed partners.

• "Casual": This song is a raw, emotional track about a relationship that one person takes seriously while the other keeps it "casual." It speaks to the pain of unequal emotional investment, a common theme in her breakup songs.
• "Good Luck, Babe!": Often interpreted as a song about a relationship that couldn't work because one person wasn't ready to embrace their true self (potentially their queer identity), it functions as a powerful farewell to an ex who chose to stay in the closet or who was simply not ready for the kind of love Chappell offered.
• "Kaleidoscope" & "Coffee": These tracks are also cited by fans as being among her most significant breakup songs, offering more gentle or reflective takes on the end of a relationship compared to the fiery energy of "My Kink Is Karma."

In the end, while the name of Chappell Roan's ex-girlfriend remains a closely guarded secret, the artist has given her fans something arguably more valuable: a catalogue of honest, emotional, and high-drama stories about the loves she's won and lost. Her music is the true biography of her dating life.